I don't watch the Oprah show very often, but found myself watching out of curiosity of the subject matter yesterday. Oprah was interviewing a woman with DID (Dissociative Identity Disorder). It's one of the disorders that have scared me over the years and I find that if I educate myself and normalize things they don't scare me as much. It was interesting hearing this woman's story and how she is managing to raise a healthy (currently 13 year old) girl. The expert they had on the show to explain the disorder did a very good job of helping those of us who don't suffer from this disorder understand it a bit better (since it is one of the few disorders that most of us can honestly not even imagine having). She said that all of us have experienced a form of disassociation at some point in our lives (for many it occurs while we're driving, we arrive at our destination and honestly can't remember the process of getting there). For many of us that have faced a trauma at some point we have experienced the post trauma version whereby you feel almost like you're floating outside of your body. In extreme cases of abuse sometimes the only way a person can survive is by fragmenting themselves to protect themselves from the reality of the things that are happening or have happened to them. It was good for me to hear this ladies story (mostly told from the perspective of her strongest personality Patricia). It was interesting to hear that she feels perfectly normal. Also it was fascinating to see the amazing paintings that her and her multiple personalities have created (each one so distinctly unique). One of the most interesting parts was seeing the self portrait that each of her 21 personalities created. It still disturbs me how severly childhood sexual abuse can affect a person, but I now understand this condition more and am not frightened by it.
I spent some of this weekend thinking about the word redemption and what it means. Not necessarily the religious context of it, but the taking a wrong and making it right idea. I think this stuck with me because I watched a few movies over the weekend in which the themes were about making things right and using your pain to help others. Like everyone I have had some painful things happen to me and have struggled with the anger and despair that often accompanies being hurt. In the book The Shack the author calls his main character's pain (due to the murder of his youngest daughter) "the Great Sadness." This makes sense to me because some of the bad things that can happen in life seem so consuming that they haunt you no matter how hard you try to ignore them. I am often reminded of this fact when something new in my life causes me pain (a conflict. a death, etc). All of a sudden the floodgate of old pain re-opens and I find myself back at the beginning of my pain...
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